Who Are You?

"WHO ARE YOU?"

This is a question that was posed to me recently by a family member for whom I was directing the funeral of his brother. I was caught off guard a bit by this question, and indicated I needed to think about it and that I would get back to him. Aside from what his motivation may have been for the question, I needed to look into myself and assess 'Who am I!' In order to answer the question accurately and honestly, I had to decide "WHO AM I NOT!"

In order to answer the question accurately and honestly, I had to decide "WHO AM I NOT!"

I had somewhat of a sleepless night giving this question a great deal of thought. I sought help from the Spirit within me, and the result(s) were (are) shocking to a degree and an eye opener to the Truth which I find liberating!

First off, I consider myself an excellent (well, very good anyway) father to my grown children, but NOT a full time father! I consider myself a very good grandfather to my grandchildren in the Netherlands, but NOT a full time grandfather. I consider myself to be a very caring, compassionate, and concerned funeral director (available 24/7), but NOT always functioning on a full time basis. I suddenly realized we often say "full time" - meaning 40 hours per week, but there are 128 hours beyond the 40 referenced above weekly in our daily lives. So I know and acknowledge that to which I am NOT! I am NOT a full time person at any one thing EXCEPT! I have come to the REALIZATION - a realization I need to keep in the forefront of my thoughts, prayers, and actions on a daily basis! The EXCEPTION! I AM a Christian first, in the Orthodox Faith second, and a servant of the Good Lord always; and that nothing, but nothing takes precedent over this fact. 

I AM a Christian first, in the Orthodox Faith second, and a servant of the Good Lord always; and that nothing, but nothing takes precedent over this fact.

I AM at peace with myself, and yet struggle each and every day in being all I can be in HIS name. I welcome the challenge (as I hope and pray you do as well) and welcome each of you reading this "confession of sorts" as friends.

Blessings always!


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Posted on March 19, 2015 .